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Thursday, Jan. 17, 2002

I got this email today…and it’s weighing heavily on my heart…like everything else I am enduring right now…

This morning while dressing myself, I pondered the question that has become such a cliché: What Would Jesus Do? From where did this expression derive?

Christians (and non-Christians) ask this burning question daily. How would Jesus handle this or my situation?

At first I didn’t understand why this subject landed so heavily in my spirit.

And then I read your e-mail

PoeticaL writes:

I wonder really what Jesus thinks of what I’m doing? I have mentally and emotionally moved on and I know that I truly love “him”. It’s been a long road. We’ve been friends for 2 ½ years. We are very there for each other. I wonder what Jesus thinks of this. I mean, I haven’t done anything wrong. But I know that emotionally and mentally I so belong to him. He and I have been through a lot together. He’s stuck by me through some of the worst stuff I have ever been through. He was there whenever my son was gone. He was there…for so much. I want to straighten out my life. I want to be happy again. I want my life back.

By your question and statement I’m reading: Is God pleased with my relationship with “him”? Should I divorce husband y and let myself truly be with him? Am I an adulteress? Can I be happy and not sin?

You have said in the past that money is your only hold up at this point.

So, today when I received this e-mail from you, I thought: How do I answer her question? What does Jesus think of what she is doing? I prayed and deliberated and read from several sources before formulating my answer.

In Matthew 19: 3-9, we read where the Pharisees asked Jesus was it lawful for a man and woman to get a divorce. Jesus’ answer was that ultimately, God never intended for a man to divorce his wife. He intended marriage to be just as the vows say: "for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do part."

But we know with the advent of sin in the world, came adultery, abuse, neglect and other things that caused God to repent that he ever made man.

In biblical times, adultery was punishable by stoning the man and woman to death.

So in Moses’ time the people asked for a law that would permit divorce. Moses’ decree only permitted a man to divorce his wife, not vices versa. He only needed to say that she was unclean in some way or that she displeased him and he was free to put her out of his house. But some men, as you can imagine, took advantage of the situation by divorcing his wife for awhile and then reclaiming her after his new affair went sour. So Moses made a law known as the letter of divorce, which made divorce more difficult to obtain and made it final. Once the letter was written and given to the wife, and she left, there was no way to reclaim her. So God only permitted divorce because of the hardness of man’s heart. He still did not want it to be so.

Matt. 19:8 Jesus replied, "Moses permitted divorce as a concession to your hard-hearted wickedness, but it was not what God had originally intended."

God does not condone divorce even today. But in the event that either the husband or wife is unfaithful it is permitted:

Matt. 19: 9 And I tell you this, a man who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery – unless his wife has been unfaithful.

So in conclusion, although God does not want us to divorce, He does make certain concessions and provisions for us to be happy and free from bondage and abuse of a loveless marriage.

Please understand me. I’m not advising you to get a divorce; in fact I must remain neutral on the subject. I am merely providing you with information for you to make up your own mind.

I hope this helps you.

this confounds me…I can’t even imagine not knowing “him” anymore. I can’t even grasp it, I know I would slowly slide back down this large mountain I am climbing…I would go right back down to that horrible hell that I knew all about before him. My co-worker Delboy just had a brilliant idea. He told me to file my taxes as a single person and claim Bucky as a dependent and take my income tax return and get the hell out. I think that Delboy is right.


just to prove I can still laugh today even if its not about a jalapeno with character….

I not come work today

Hung Chow: "Hey, boss I not come work today, I really sick. I got headache, stomachache and my legs hurt, I not come work."

The boss says: "You know Hung Chow I really need you today. When I feel like this I go to my wife and tell her to give me sex. That makes me feel better and I can go to work. You should try that."

Two hours later Hung Chow calls: "Boss, I do what you say and I feel great, I be at work soon.
You got nice house."

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